The postpartum belly, A debate?

I recently read the post at scarymommmy.com titled "It's time we started accepting that having a belly pooch is normal" and was shocked at the comments on Facebook. First of all, everyone woman is entitled to choose whichever was she deems best to address her postpartum body. 

Whether it’s stretch marks, a “pooch” as it's so quaintly named, or a condition called Diastasis Recti which means that the muscles in the abdomen do not return to their previous form,  it has become an uncomfortable topic for people and lets be honest, even for woman to discuss. For one, there is the idea that there is a normalization of post baby bodies, which is expressed to be WRONG, and if you’ve read any of the comments on Facebook, a normalization of not taking care of one’s self after baby has been expressed as just plain laziness. While I sit here with my uterus one has to wonder where some of these commentors, who do not have a uterus, might I add, feel justifiable in commenting on another women’s choice of activity or lack thereof postpartum. Just because she is not thin or the expectation in the media of post baby bodies, does not mean she isn't working on remaining healthy and taking care of herself or her child! Good grief!

The real question is, why is it any business of yours what I do with the middle portion of my body. It does not hinder you, prevent you from living your life, or making your wage or change your life in any way. It is clear, that everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but you just brought a life into this world. You are entitled to take your time! Don't let anyone tell you any different. There is no time frame! This is not a race! You are amazing, just as you are!

We are constantly being barraged with advertisements, quick fixes, diet tips and shakes that will make a person into the perfect "shape." What in the actual hell does that even mean? For crying out loud. At the end of the day, it is your choice. You have a voice. You choose to live your life the way that you want to. If you love your pooch, own it. If you are struggling with Diastasis Recti, address it in whichever way you see fit, or not at all if that's your jam. You just love the way you body looks now that it has created a human and this is your battle scar to prove it? Own it! You're amazing! If you want to change it, do so in a manner that fits your beliefs and how you would like to pursue that change. You are amazing, you made life. You created a whole human in your body with no one else's help thank you very much. Okay, yes, the sperm assisted in the initial creation (yes, I realize I am simplifying the circumstance and not attempting to take away from having a wonderfully supportive partner), but after that it was all you sister! Own it. Love yourself in whichever way feels best to you. 

Thank you scarymommy for your post. You guys are awesome. 

Alex